Let’s let the cat out of the bag… I wish I was the person who reveled in her level of courageousness, her deep meditation practice or fearless zeal for life. But I am not. I strategically move forward under the veil of my dear friend naivety.
How can this be the source of strength and courage? My morning routine requires not doing anything before 9am. I am not naturally optimistic about what my day holds. My cup is half full….. of coffee.
But let’s whip out my cape of Superhuman proportions, and embrace naivety and its innate power.
During a women’s conference, I saw her and embraced her for the first time. This incredible strength that permeated the first hand experiences of the speakers. Over and over again the youngest successful entrepreneurs were working one day at a time and one foot in front of the other, and figuring it out on the fly. Getting loans to fulfill orders from Nordstroms that needed to arrive on their child’s due dates. None of them had detailed fool-proof or full/proofed plans. They were piecing together a trial and error system and they labeled their experiences as educations not failure. They just reached out into the infinity and took a step that did not feel risky. It was a step that felt solid on a path that was not clearly defined and they kept going.
My friend naive has never held a place of honor or respect. In fact it was not uttered as a source for their success but I saw her everywhere. It has been a word used to downplay someone, it has a negative connotation, but for me, I tell you, it holds the essence of greatness.
Naivety is light on its feet, has no expectations or judgement. Naivety does not require work, refinement or deep personal change. Naivety is something we all have and we all hide.
Our naive version lives fearlessly. These women were fearless, they learned from others but did not have any past experience fueling their decisions.
How did they do it? I looked into my own life and I realized that the fearless version of me is hidden. The emotional baggage of experience, can see right through the financial instability or long list of problems that could be in a situation. Experience can reveal when a client relationship is difficult or dealing with them is going to be a series of headaches. Or a simple text message from an app designer telling you there is too much noise in the app store and the opportunity to gain success through traditional practices is over. Thoughts like, you’ll spend a fortune and the opportunity is not there. Because experience and expertise know better than the new at heart, Right? No. Absolutely wrong.
The most powerful person in the room is the person who does not care what anyone else thinks. Naive people don’t seek approval, they learn through experience and research, and they are not limited by the belief that someone else knows more than them. They are like children in that their curiosities fuel their motivation and their hearts are not covered in the scars of experience.
The real power of being naive is that the only person you have to satisfy is yourself.
If you can image becoming motivated from a place that feels safe, that even the failure itself is safe, and the process is more important than the end goal? Then you know where the naive version of yourself exists.
Here is a definition of a Naive person:(of a person) natural and unaffected; innocence
The derogatory slur of this comes from assuming every element of the person falls into this definition. Terms like unworldly, unwise, or not using judgement…
But how come we are not both? How come when I see people who can and do review things without judgement, and are wise? Why do we see that people seek to be more innocent and open, meditating to get there. Working on self refinement to become more unaffected, but we are unwilling to see that this lives inside us? Naivety was buried, it was shamed into hiding. As we become older and the experience of work has begun to destroy or joy and zeal for it. Naively trying something completely new to us can become a tool in our business box, to tackle, conquer and take on the things that may have seen impossible from our experienced self.
Have you seen the naive version of yourself in a while? How has it helped you?